Trust – What do you know of it, and what do you think of it?
Guy Greenfield once said, “Trust is openness and openness is the gateway to depth. Therefore you go as deep as you trust.”
Trust is reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence. Trust is to believe in. It is also the condition of one to whom something has been entrusted. Trust is to expect confidently, to commit or consign. Trust is to rely or to depend on. Trust is to have confidence. Trust, is hope.
Due to the natural hypocrisy this world was born in, we all have a need for transparency. Most of us adopt a hedge of self-protection around ourselves, because we fear being known. This is not wrong, and I am not saying it is right either. We are all victims to the fear of letting our true selves be seen. Therefore, we are all hypocrites, without the malicious tendencies.
We can never achieve closeness with people around unless we become willing to allow ourselves to be understood by others, to show what we are like on the inside and unless these others trust us enough to grant the same privilege. Within our self-built human bonds, if we cannot find it in ourselves to trust, we will find that we are swimming in relationships that are far less than satisfactory. If we begin any relationships without realising the need of developing a greater sense of trust, it is in doubt that we will make it a priority in relationship building. Thus, do not be surprised that the growth in trust will only occur in response to crisis, and various situations.
To ensure that there is a significant growth to trust, liberation from the past is highly required. Trusting is never easy. Or should I say, you trust people you feel you can, but as soon as it is broken, trust is hard to be gained once again, or may never be gained. This is where this phrase comes in appropriately, “Once bitten, twice shy.” Forgive and forget? How many of us are seriously magnanimous when it comes to forgetting? One thing we have to learn, inclusive of myself, we have to forget what is behind, keep pushing, and strive towards what is ahead – the future.
For example, there were two friends, Kyle and Holly. They both get into a huge argument over an incident that hurt Kyle deeply.
Kyle says to Holly, “I can never trust you again. You broke this trust at some point of time and I can never even be sure that you will not do it again.”
Does this scenario ring a bell? Does it sound a tad bit too familiar? Definitely a yes, such a scenario would have occurred to us at least once. The last part of the sentence is true, we can never be sure that we will not get hurt again. However, because love will always take a risk, we will let bygones be bygones. Ah, the wonders of love. But keep in mind, a forgiven fault should never be brought up again. Concentrate hard on the future, and leave the rubbish of the past to decompose and disappear forever.
Learn to be honest with each other; deep dark secrets have a higher possibility of aiding a better understanding of each other than to cause shocks. The more honest you are, the more trust is built. When there is more trust in the relationship, you realize you become more at peace with who you are as individuals. Disclosure is an essential of self-discovery. When you make a decision, and are willing to make yourself vulnerable so that you become known by another individual, you will come to know yourself. By disclosure, we encourage others to reciprocate. We allow more space for growth of a relationship, in that, happiness comes naturally. People will start to be genuinely drawn to us, and by that, changes are made possible.
Sidney Jourard - Loving is scary, because when you permit yourself to be known, you expose yourself not only to a lover's balm, but also to a hater's 'bombs!' When he knows you, he knows just where to plant them for maximum effect.
Always be sensible and tactful when it comes to handling relationships. Life would be a much better thing.
Side note: It’s funny how I can write such things and not implement it into my own world. Ah, what an irony!
compliments fr sam sam!
(sam sam, amazing hw u can come up w this at such short time n @ e inspiration of ONE word!) hey hey! i'm yr inspiration! ;p
Guy Greenfield once said, “Trust is openness and openness is the gateway to depth. Therefore you go as deep as you trust.”
Trust is reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence. Trust is to believe in. It is also the condition of one to whom something has been entrusted. Trust is to expect confidently, to commit or consign. Trust is to rely or to depend on. Trust is to have confidence. Trust, is hope.
Due to the natural hypocrisy this world was born in, we all have a need for transparency. Most of us adopt a hedge of self-protection around ourselves, because we fear being known. This is not wrong, and I am not saying it is right either. We are all victims to the fear of letting our true selves be seen. Therefore, we are all hypocrites, without the malicious tendencies.
We can never achieve closeness with people around unless we become willing to allow ourselves to be understood by others, to show what we are like on the inside and unless these others trust us enough to grant the same privilege. Within our self-built human bonds, if we cannot find it in ourselves to trust, we will find that we are swimming in relationships that are far less than satisfactory. If we begin any relationships without realising the need of developing a greater sense of trust, it is in doubt that we will make it a priority in relationship building. Thus, do not be surprised that the growth in trust will only occur in response to crisis, and various situations.
To ensure that there is a significant growth to trust, liberation from the past is highly required. Trusting is never easy. Or should I say, you trust people you feel you can, but as soon as it is broken, trust is hard to be gained once again, or may never be gained. This is where this phrase comes in appropriately, “Once bitten, twice shy.” Forgive and forget? How many of us are seriously magnanimous when it comes to forgetting? One thing we have to learn, inclusive of myself, we have to forget what is behind, keep pushing, and strive towards what is ahead – the future.
For example, there were two friends, Kyle and Holly. They both get into a huge argument over an incident that hurt Kyle deeply.
Kyle says to Holly, “I can never trust you again. You broke this trust at some point of time and I can never even be sure that you will not do it again.”
Does this scenario ring a bell? Does it sound a tad bit too familiar? Definitely a yes, such a scenario would have occurred to us at least once. The last part of the sentence is true, we can never be sure that we will not get hurt again. However, because love will always take a risk, we will let bygones be bygones. Ah, the wonders of love. But keep in mind, a forgiven fault should never be brought up again. Concentrate hard on the future, and leave the rubbish of the past to decompose and disappear forever.
Learn to be honest with each other; deep dark secrets have a higher possibility of aiding a better understanding of each other than to cause shocks. The more honest you are, the more trust is built. When there is more trust in the relationship, you realize you become more at peace with who you are as individuals. Disclosure is an essential of self-discovery. When you make a decision, and are willing to make yourself vulnerable so that you become known by another individual, you will come to know yourself. By disclosure, we encourage others to reciprocate. We allow more space for growth of a relationship, in that, happiness comes naturally. People will start to be genuinely drawn to us, and by that, changes are made possible.
Sidney Jourard - Loving is scary, because when you permit yourself to be known, you expose yourself not only to a lover's balm, but also to a hater's 'bombs!' When he knows you, he knows just where to plant them for maximum effect.
Always be sensible and tactful when it comes to handling relationships. Life would be a much better thing.
Side note: It’s funny how I can write such things and not implement it into my own world. Ah, what an irony!
compliments fr sam sam!
(sam sam, amazing hw u can come up w this at such short time n @ e inspiration of ONE word!) hey hey! i'm yr inspiration! ;p
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